Defining Support, The Cancer Mom Series: Eileen

In one split second their world changed forever.   A scary and isolating job that no woman could ever prepare for.  Regardless of the type of cancer, the experience is long and difficult. Regardless of remissions, cures or unimaginable loss, cancer is part of their lives forever.  Their moments in life are now marked by haunting memories and inconceivable feelings.  Their family’s timeline is now marked by ‘before’ or ‘after cancer’. We are working during the month of May in honor of Cancer Moms everywhere, fighting for their kids. We will share stories of many incredible Cancer Moms this month and how they define support.  We want to be their voices, reminding you all that the ONLY way we can make things better for kids fighting cancer is to do something about it. We hope we all find ways to lighten the load for our friends, neighbors and family members struggling quietly, valiantly, every single day, to keep their children alive. Donate today in honor of a mom. Donate in honor of a child. Your donation to ISF helps fund pediatric cancer research in our local community.

By Eileen Kellgren

Eileen is Mom to Sydney, who is currently 14 years old, finished treatment for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, and recently ‘Rang the Bell’ in December 2018. 

Support is lack of expectation.  It’s showing up whether you think you’re needed or not or whether you know what to do or not.

This ugly beast swallows children, siblings, families – all in the painful way only another cancer mom can understand so we don’t expect you to know what to do – heck – we don’t even know what to do ourselves!  One day we are living our lives and the next we are facing the unthinkable … #surreal.

It’s not the flu, it’s not ok, it doesn’t feel comfortable to walk this journey, to see your child suffer week after week, appointment after appointment, scared, lost, sometimes losing hope.  And all you feel is FEAR at every turn. Life. Threatening. Fear.

So many lose so much and if you’re lucky to be left alive and in tact after all is said and done then the fight to comeback is just the beginning.  

So when others show up, and don’t hide because they may not know what to do, it makes all the difference.  When a cancer mom doesn’t feel alone it’s the best gift of all 💗.

Donate in honor of these incredible women, your donation to the Isabella Santos Foundation helps fund research so desperately needed for rare pediatric cancer patients.