Defining Support, The Cancer Mom Series: Eileen

Defining Support, The Cancer Warrior Mom Series is a collection of thoughts from many incredible Cancer Moms and how they define support. 

By Eileen Kellgren

Eileen is Mom to Sydney, who is currently 14 years old, finished treatment for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, and recently ‘Rang the Bell’ in December 2018. 

Support is lack of expectation.  It’s showing up whether you think you’re needed or not or whether you know what to do or not.

This ugly beast swallows children, siblings, families – all in the painful way only another cancer mom can understand so we don’t expect you to know what to do – heck – we don’t even know what to do ourselves!  One day we are living our lives and the next we are facing the unthinkable … #surreal.

It’s not the flu, it’s not ok, it doesn’t feel comfortable to walk this journey, to see your child suffer week after week, appointment after appointment, scared, lost, sometimes losing hope.  And all you feel is FEAR at every turn. Life. Threatening. Fear.

So many lose so much and if you’re lucky to be left alive and in tact after all is said and done then the fight to comeback is just the beginning.  

So when others show up, and don’t hide because they may not know what to do, it makes all the difference.  When a cancer mom doesn’t feel alone it’s the best gift of all 💗.

Donate in honor of these incredible women, your donation to the Isabella Santos Foundation helps fund research so desperately needed for rare pediatric cancer patients.